The Best Thing about Marrying Your Best Friend
I’m marrying my best friend.
And I say ‘best friend’ because we’ve developed a strong foundation of friendship beneath our romance and life-long partnership.
This quality of friendship is actually what drew me to him in the first place.
He just gets it.
We got along like houses on fire on our first date, second date, and then throughout the pandemic.
Even when I got upset, I could never stay quiet for long because it felt incredibly comforting to tell him what was up. That’s definitely something new for me.
I love talking to him.
He just gets it.
We have the same worldviews and our brains work in sync.
When we sit in a car together and I see something interesting up high, I always point it out to him. But, sometimes, he can’t see it from where he sits, and it frustrates me.
It’s just not the same without him seeing it.
I realise that the best thing about marrying your best friend is sharing life experiences with each other.
We become witnesses to each other’s journey.
The things we do and see are preserved in our shared memories.
Mundane moments become fun. Every day is a day to be lived together, and when we look back, it turns into a building block of our history; it adds meaning to our present.
The second best thing about marrying your best friend is that you get to be your full and better self every day for the rest of your life.
He brings out the best in me.
I can be whoever I want on the outside because he understands it’s an expression of me and he never holds me back. Likewise, I love and hype him up in all shapes, forms, and silly movements. Meanwhile, our souls dance with each other and become forever companions.
Our life together makes me want to be present more than being in my head or even reflecting on the past.
I’m here, and I’m living.
I no longer wish to be somewhere else or wait anxiously for a text message. Well, I no longer have to care about text messages because he’s always right next to me, showering me with his love and attention.
Sometimes when I’m suddenly conscious of our togetherness, I’m blown away by our having found each other in this lifetime — and that someone like him even exists. How lucky we are. How lucky I am.
Many people tried to tell me that the love I want isn’t real or I’m not worthy of it. It hurt like hell, but now I’m eternally grateful they showed me who they were and freed me to find the happiness I deserve.
In less than a year, I’ll be walking down the aisle to the man who makes me the happiest.
Honestly, even though I was a romantic, I somehow never fantasized about having a wedding.
But to think I’ll spend the big day with him gives me butterflies.
And to think I’ll grow old with my best friend makes my eyes teary.
Relationships are important and deeply beneficial.
While it’s tempting to throw in the towel — I get it, I think we should all learn to be better at relationships — all kinds of relationships. We should date with more empathy and humanness.
Build respectful, trusting friendships with our romantic partners instead of treating them like disposable objects. And yes, I’m shouting louder for the men at the back.
I’m marrying my best friend, and I’m telling you: It’s a daily blessing.
