3 Ways to Show Someone You Like Them Without Being Desperate
Recently, I have fallen in love with an introvert. Being an extrovert myself, I can be quite loud and ludicrous at times with the way I express myself.
However, when it comes to dating, I know what I want. I never thought I would fall in love in a mental clinic, but it just happened (Check out the link at the end of this article to find out more about my unique love story!)
Seeing my guy in the clinic for the first time, I knew I wanted to get to know him. I remember seeing him in the canteen with shy eyes and Harry-Potter-style glasses.
Not to sound obnoxious or anything, but I knew I would get him without seeming desperate. It’s called confidence baby.
There are simple steps to take to be confident in who you are and here are the three ways to show someone you like them without being desperate because who wants to seem desperate?
“You seemed so desperate, like you might drown if someone didn’t save you.”
― Arthur Golden, Memoirs of a Geisha
1. Act yourself and nobody else
“Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.”
― Marilyn Monroe
As Marilyn Monroe perfectly puts it — it is a waste of the person you are to act like somebody else, but this can be the case when we are starting with dating, right?
You want to be the best version of yourself so that the other person ends up liking you.
I remember this used to be the case when I was dating back in my teens. I tried to be like one of the girls in my class who seemed so laid back and confident.
It was only when I realised that the person who I was trying to impress liked me for who I am that I started acting like myself in all my flaws and imperfections.
So currently dating my guy in the clinic was easy. You see, once you accept yourself for who you are, it is harder for other people to not accept you as they see the confidence you portray.
I know I am pretty gross for a woman at times and I’ve said this before but I think it fits pretty well with being yourself.
At times, I spit when I’ve smoked. I know it’s not the most ladylike thing, (but now my guy calls me his lady as a joke!) and I probably should stop but I do it anyway and he likes me for it.
In fact, he said he likes watching me do it (wonder if it’s a weird fetish haha) and that he accepts me for it.
In fact, one of the girls in the clinic was grossed out by me and going crazy at me for doing it because of the germs and he butted in and said it’s not that bad and she should get off my case.
Point of the story: Be yourself and they will accept you. If not, then they aren’t the one. Here’s how to know if they are the one:
The next step to show someone you like them without being desperate is to:
2. Be cool
“Being cool is being your own self, not doing something that someone else is telling you to do.”
— Vaness Hudgens
Sounds like a funny one, right?
I was just talking about authenticity and now I’m on to being cool.
Well I think that our society has made us believe that being cool is being someone you aren’t when actually it is the complete opposite — it is being the person you are and not being someone else.
To keep your cool means to be you and be chilled.
When I started a conversation with this guy who is now my boyfriend, I was scared. Don’t get me wrong.
We were in the canteen area of the clinic, and I saw he was sat alone — it was the perfect opportunity for me to go over to him and sit with him.
My nerves didn’t get the best of me because I didn’t let them.
When I sat down, I started talking straight away but not too much — I still listened to what he had to say and be okay.
I acted cool and laid back.
I ate my dinner as well as participated in conversation to raise our vibration.
Being cool means keeping your cool and not letting your nerves get to you.
It means to talk to the person you like as if you already know them.
It means to talk to the person you like with openness and friendliness.
It means to be you and be proud of who you are.
Lastly, show someone you like them without sounding desperate concerns not showing off.
3. Don’t show off unnecessarily
“I’m not the kind of person who tries to be cool or trendy, I’m definitely an individual.”
We are all individuals — believe it.
However, when we are flirting with someone we like at first, we want to impress them. It’s only normal.
When we want to impress someone, we usually try and do things like showing off. There is no need to show off — don’t embarrass yourself.
When I sat down at first and started the conversation between us that then ended up us spending every minute together, I knew that I wanted to tell him about myself and maybe show off…
I told him I was considering moving to Mexico and in my mind after I said it, I realised that this was me trying to show off. So I stopped.
Become so aware of what you are saying that you end up having control over it.
Of course, show off a bit — I mean why not? But don’t make it all about you. The limelight is on the both of you trying to get to know each other, it’s not all about you sitting there and telling the person you like everything you have achieved.
At the end of the day, the person you like will end up liking you back because you are you and nobody else can compete.
Remember that.
