I don’t have what-ifs.
My ex hid his schizophrenia from me.
You take care of others without thinking about your own needs.
Practical tips from a first-date expert
Lessons learned from one of the happiest couples I know
No more patriarchal bullshit in my life
I know he’s the right one for me when I can be myself
They helped keep my anxiety at bay.
Sometimes, it’s not about you at all.
Have expectations for relationships, not people
There are always some issues here and there, there will be times when I feel down and depressed, but at least now I know for a fact that I’m whole and I’m enough for myself and I’m committed to maintaining this healthy headspace regardless of where I am at in life.
Now I don’t think that I need a boyfriend to be happy but as a well-rounded person who has other aspects of her life in order, I do care about having a good relationship.
Reflecting back on my past dating experiences and relationships, I can confidently say with my chest raised up at the air that I’ve sure made a lot of mistakes.
You’re not afraid to be emotional and you don’t try to avoid them, especially the negative and difficult ones. You let them happen to you while you understand that your emotions are temporary.
It wasn’t easy but in retrospect, it was good for me. This event taught me many things about love and life which have shaped me into the person I’m proud of being today — stronger, wiser, calmer and more appreciative of what I have.
When I was in my twenties, I lived the “responsible life” – I worked hard to succeed in my career, made enough money to get a mortgage and bought a place in my late 20s. It was great. Then one day in my 30s, I looked around and thought, “that’s it?”
Over time, I’ve learned to make better investments with my precious resources. I know what relationships I should definitely work on hard to have a healthy, meaningful, stable life in my twenties.
If you’ve been seeing him for a few weeks and realize no date has happened on the weekend, only late evenings after work through to early mornings rushing out of his place, I have some bad news for you.
Past decisions are just that: done decisions that belong to the past. Most likely, you did what you did because it was your best option in that moment given the circumstance — there’s no point in regretting.
I wish I had learned time management sooner when it was my most abundant resource. I wish someone would’ve told me it is important to be hardworking at what you love.