The truth is if you date without intention, you will end up in a situation that is set on someone else’s terms, serving someone else’s interest while costing you physically, emotionally, financially, and more.
For the first time in my life, I actually don’t feel bad about being perpetually single or rushed to change my relationship status.
Instead of wasting time decoding people who don’t have good intentions with you, you should focus on understanding yourself.
Be upfront about your needs for closeness and intimacy.
Our issues and my past issues rolled into a ball too ugly and heavy that it took me months and months to crawl out of it.
I know I have changed. Lots of experiences have changed me. I’m not the person I was a year ago, or two years ago.
I know it hasn’t been easy because you think so much and feel so much. Your big, big heart always breaks faster than it heals.
The guy who likes the chase is the guy who cares about feeding his ego more than getting to know you.
You have to be okay with who you are. You have to be so okay that you can switch back to the “I’m on my own” mode anytime and start over again, from a place of strength.
Sit with yourself because there are times no one and nothing could help you but you.
My biggest takeaway from all this bullshit is that oxytocin is a real bitch. You can’t date like me.
To my younger self, know that everything will be okay because I am here telling you so.
I didn’t take care of myself properly. Or even at all. The reality was that I fucked up my dopamine system a long time ago.
People don’t love you for the emotional energy you put in the relationship; they love you for who you are.
Please stop saying sorry for what happened. Please stop apologising for all the clumsy ways you handled pain. Please allow yourself that much.
I know your 20s is a confusing and painful time. You always feel like you could do so much more but you’re just seemingly wasting your time, getting nowhere. It’s okay.
I read about you yesterday and I burst into tears on the bus. You don’t know me. You will never know me. But I know you now and I’m listening to your playlist.
You are a valuable person who brings a lot to the table. When you truly start to believe this about yourself, you’ll it easy to stay relaxed in the early stages of dating.
I’ve settled with the conclusion that things just simply did not work out for us. We were compatible in many ways, but maybe being lovers just wasn’t one of them.
Mutual feelings have become some sort of magic. Mutual efforts are almost non-existent.