High-value people find each other.
Being attractive and rich doesn’t automatically make you a high-value partner to someone.
High quality and value people don’t choose a partner just based on looks and money — there are other factors that are more essential.
High value is an indicator of your core and how that core manifests in all other areas of your life. It’s reflected in your character and how you treat and carry yourself. It’s about your interactions with the world and the people around you.
High value isn’t just an impression you make — it’s a way of life. When you have standards for yourself, you will feel the control you have over yourself and see clearly who doesn’t meet your standards. When meeting you, people will naturally self-select themselves and those who are similar to you will be drawn to you.
To be a high-value partner and present yourself as a quality dating prospect, make sure you have these 3 things:
Having principles means having beliefs (or rules) that guide you and keep you grounded. It shows integrity and reliability. It signals trustworthiness. You say what you mean and you mean what you say. You’re not easily tempted. You don’t get carried away. You don’t give in to distractions and pressure. You have an inner compass that does right by you and serves your benefits.
You take a stance on issues that are important to you. You trust your judgment. You can tell what is good or bad. You stand for what is good. You keep promises to yourself. You’re not afraid to call out bullshit and nonsense. People might not agree with you, but they will respect you and they won’t mess you around because they can’t — your principles won’t let them.
People with boundaries are the people who love and respect themselves, and they know how to take care of themselves.
If you have strong boundaries, you don’t actually scare people away — not the right people anyway. It will make them feel safe to be around you because they have the guidelines (your boundaries) to know how to treat you, make you happy, and build a relationship with you.
Your boundaries ultimately make you feel good about yourself and give you the confidence to go out there and find what you want because you know that you’re well protected and nothing can get past your boundaries. They help you send the message to people you interact with how you want to be treated and you won’t accept any less.
Remember that there are no boundaries if you can’t implement consequences. So having boundaries also means that you can walk away from what doesn’t serve you anytime and it signals that you must have a good life you love.
High-value people have good things going on for them, which is how they can contribute to a relationship.
Investing in yourself will unlock all other things you need to love your life and find a relationship with yourself. It signals to you that you’re worthy of care, love, and respect, and it will be the pillar for how you want to be treated in relationships with others. It will literally improve your quality of life and allow you in places where a high caliber of partners are and connect with them with a balance of power.
Examples of self-investment: Learning communication skills, going to therapy, going to the gym, learning a new skill, enrolling in a course, increasing your knowledge of the world, taking care of your health, keeping your home tidy, journalling, dressing in a way that makes you feel good and brings out your best features, and so on.