How To Reprogram Your Thoughts To Maintain A Healthy Self-esteem
Why would you judge people based on look if you know beauty is not your strong suit? Why would you judge people based on money if you don’t have much yourself?
Why would you judge people based on look if you know beauty is not your strong suit? Why would you judge people based on money if you don’t have much yourself?
Letting you go is so easy when I accept true love into my life.
You’re not afraid to be emotional and you don’t try to avoid them, especially the negative and difficult ones. You let them happen to you while you understand that your emotions are temporary.
It wasn’t easy but in retrospect, it was good for me. This event taught me many things about love and life which have shaped me into the person I’m proud of being today — stronger, wiser, calmer and more appreciative of what I have.
I knew all my past struggles and mistakes and hangups and I brought them with me to the present day no matter how long before they had happened and regardless of whether I had resolved them. I subconsciously used them to define myself despite all the great progress I’d made to my life.
If there was a visual representation or definition of what a Bad Boy was supposed to be, it was him! You didn’t need to get to know him better, he so reeked of “BAD” you could smell it from a mile away.
Finding the right motivation is the most important part. Once you have the drive, it’s only a matter of adding good habits and removing the bad ones.
What if the right people will stay regardless because they want to? What if I don’t have to do anything that forces me to compromise my own boundaries and standards all the time? What if I can just for once relax and honour my own perspective?
When I was in my twenties, I lived the “responsible life” – I worked hard to succeed in my career, made enough money to get a mortgage and bought a place in my late 20s. It was great. Then one day in my 30s, I looked around and thought, “that’s it?”
My partner isn’t my opponent. A relationship isn’t a game. He’s on my team. He’s to be trusted. He deserves the benefits of the doubt, understanding, and honest discussion.
Sometimes it will feel hard because I don’t get to do what I like immediately but I must remember that it’s a step toward the life I want and I must persevere regardless.
We would then look into each other’s eyes, smile and say, “Our love for each other keeps us going” but deep down we knew we were living a lie, at least I did.
Over time, I’ve learned to make better investments with my precious resources. I know what relationships I should definitely work on hard to have a healthy, meaningful, stable life in my twenties.
If you’ve been seeing him for a few weeks and realize no date has happened on the weekend, only late evenings after work through to early mornings rushing out of his place, I have some bad news for you.
Honestly, I blame London. This city life is a lonely, isolating one. I came here cloud-shaped, now I’m all geometric. I didn’t have a choice. I had to do what I did to survive, to not get hurt so easily, so deeply, so frequently anymore.
Past decisions are just that: done decisions that belong to the past. Most likely, you did what you did because it was your best option in that moment given the circumstance — there’s no point in regretting.
I hope right now you’re saying to yourself, “Hell no! It doesn’t sound good, I want a better life for myself and my family. I want to be remembered when I’m gone. I want to change and impact peoples lives!”
The things independent and guarded people don’t tell you are plenty, but what they most likely keep to themselves is when they need you.
I detested my photo on the national identification card. I looked terrible. My hair was dirty. My eyes were tiny. I didn’t even have bangs so it made my forehead look like a paddy field.
No one says it’s easy, but on the very bright side, I get to design a life I want to live. I get to make every little decision of where I want to go from here.