The break-up that stays with you the longest isn’t the one you have with the person who treats you the best or even whom you love the most.
You can love someone with every bit of your soul and have an amicable break-up, carrying with you happy memories and profound lessons.
But you can’t really say the same about the break-up that stays with you the longest.
It’s the opposite of serenity. It shocks your system in ways that you can’t grasp by yourself.
It forces you to face your deepest fear.
It’s the shiniest mirror that shows you the bare truth of who you are, and it can be a little too much.
The break-up that scars you the deepest happens when you have no attachment in your life. It traumatises you because you give too much of yourself to a relationship that never knows better than denying your core gifts.
It’s the relationship that makes you believe you can have the world but pushes you into the darkest shadow of yourself instead — lonely, perplexed, and inexplicably anxious.
It’s with a person who appears to be the living fantasy of who you want to be but turns out to have the qualities you hate the most in yourself.
You realise you don’t know this person, and you can’t recognise yourself when being with them.
The break-up that stays with you the longest is one that leaves you with much more than “profound lessons.”
It changes you in fundamental ways.
After this break-up, you are never the same again.
You feel resentment from having to leave your past self behind when you’re not quite ready for it. You feel frustration when the trauma gets in the way of your finding new happiness. You feel deep spirit pain when you remember, after all, you are the one who lets it happen to you.
The break-up that stays with you the longest is the one that sends you to therapy and keeps you awake at night even after therapy has ended.
There are questions you can’t answer and memories you can’t erase. But, over time, you learn to live with them.
You reclaim your power and rewrite your story.
You free yourself from shame and regret.
You allow yourself to stay awake at night now and then, honouring your becoming journey and showing compassion towards your past self.
The break-up that stays with you the longest might dismantle your whole existence at one point, but it also gives you a chance to finally piece yourself together meaningfully and passionately.
It shifts your perspective on the parts of you that you thought were weaknesses. It teaches you what it means to be human and the true meaning of “strength.”
It might be your lowest point but also your best chance of actualising the person you’ve always wanted to become.
It’s the shiniest mirror that shows you the bare truth of who you are — so, if you look carefully enough, you will see there’s nothing to be scared of. In fact, it’s the key to everything you ever dream of in life.
The biggest mystery of your universe is getting solved — you.
The break-up that stays with you the longest is the one you have with your past self — the toxic, immature, gullible parts of you.
The price you have to pay and the weight you carry in the aftermath are far from pretty, but you know you need it.
It’s how you grow as a human and start embarking on your own unique path. It’s how you wholeheartedly appreciate the life you have and understand the real value of everything around you.
The break-up that stays with you the longest might be the last break-up you’ll ever have, now that you have found yourself.