4 Ideas to Help You Make the Most of Your Single Life

People will question your love life when you are single. They see you as an incomplete human being, especially when you are approaching the late 20s. It is what it is.

When I was single, no one asked me how happy I was with my life and that I don’t need to have a man in my life to make me feel “whole.”

People around me caring too much about the fact that I was still alone, and if you live in a small village, not having a fiance or at least a boyfriend in your mid-twenties is a big issue.

But I didn’t give in and settled for less just because of how society expected me to.

Taking the time to find someone who’s right for me has been a game-changer in my love life, and staying single for quite some time has made me realize how important it is to make myself happy before I do it for someone else.

This might sound cliche, but it’s true that you can only love someone better when you don’t hate yourself. I’ve been there where I rushed myself getting into a relationship while I knew I still had a lot of things that I needed to work on internally.

As a result, it failed miserably, and my issues just added up.

So when I decided to take my time to stay single and learn a lot about myself, I also worked on maximizing the opportunity to help me get more ready for the next relationship.

I wanted it to be a healthy, stable, and my last dating experience. I was tired of wasting time investing in the so-shallow-relationships.

1. Travel as much as you can

Traveling was the first thing I prioritized when I took the time to be single.

From checking out local destinations to flying abroad for a couple of weeks. It helped me see another part of the world, and I always noticed I would feel different every time I came back home.

Something has changed, especially in my perspective about life. And soon enough, it changed how I set my future goals, and I gained so much confidence in what I can achieve. This also affected my way of seeing men in general.

When I went to Canada, I’ve talked to people who are happily single. Yes, they might feel lonely sometimes; it’s normal. But it’s still mind-blowing that those people don’t just settle because their family and friends asked them to.

That won’t be the case in my small village. Like, ever. It doesn’t matter how “successful” you are in your career life or how many cars you have, but if you are still single in your 30s, people won’t appreciate your existence.

I wish it’s a joke, but it’s not.

So if you’ve been under pressure and somehow thinking you should get into a relationship for the sake of it, don’t. Instead, maximize your singleness by traveling the world and see how it can change you.

2. Create something you are proud of

I’ve known too many girls whose goal is to get married. Not that it’s wrong, but it’s a bit unfortunate that they don’t do anything else with their life aside from waiting for their Prince charming to marry them.

Creating something new that I’ve never imagined before has changed my life and how I see myself in general. It’s important to acknowledge my worth and value, so I don’t end up settling with the wrong person.

Aside from my day job as a digital marketer, I’d write and make bullet journal planners. And if I have more time during the weekends, I usually will take landscape pictures and edit them. Those activities have helped me feel good and not expecting a man to do it.

If you don’t know where to start, pick one thing you used to do when you were a kid. Be it painting, water-coloring, or even baking. And make sure to capture it so you can see how much progress you make over time.

Working on something that has nothing to do with your love life is something that most people overlooked. Yet, if you do and maximize the activity, there’s a higher chance you’ll become a more emotionally stable and confident partner for your next future relationship.

3. Work on your financial life

If you are single and broke, then it’s the perfect time to first work on your financial situation. Don’t think to jump into a relationship and hope they can help you to make it better.

People get sensitive when it comes to money, but you also probably know there are some girls who do nothing about their bad financial life. They do a bare minimum to get by, although they can always pick a new skill and level up in their career life.

It’s crazy that where I live here, girls think it’s the man’s obligation to give all of his money, so she doesn’t need to worry about that part of life anymore. They don’t realize that more impacts will occur in the future, such as; lack of confidence, putting their life in someone’s life, can’t decide anything on their own, and many more.

Seeing this scenario happens all the time, I decided to put my full efforts into working on my financial situation, and I still do even when I’m in a serious relationship now. Having my own money and knowing that when something bad happens, I don’t need to freak out because I know how to make money by myself.

4. Get to know different types of people

Last but not least, putting yourself out there while you are single can be the best thing you can do to maximize your singleness. This is because it has something to do with your standard.

Getting to know many different types of people will let you figure out your best preference, instead of just going on a date with one person and settle down with them the next month.

When I broke up with my ex, I went out to get to know different people with different personalities and hobbies. I also made it clear that I didn’t want anything serious just yet with each of them.

Soon enough, I knew what I could and couldn’t tolerate in a partner. Sometimes you’ll know whether the person is right for you by talking about how they see life in general. Many people settle down too early and find out that they’ve entirely different perspectives from their partners.

I’ve talked to a guy who said that he doesn’t want to have kids at all, even when he’s married. While I respect his preference in that department, it just doesn’t align with my goals who want to have one. So knowing things like that earlier has saved me a lot of time and unnecessary heartbreaks.

Parting words

I wish more people knew that they still can feel complete by being single. There’s no need to rush into the next relationship after the breakup. They don’t have to settle down just because it’s what’s everyone else around them doing.

If you are reading this and thinking, “but I’ve been single for two years!” then so what? It’s much better to stay single until you find the right person rather than being with someone who doesn’t treat you right.

I know it can be hard to shrug those neighbors’ comments off but still, you shouldn’t give in. While the right relationship will make your life more meaningful, there are definitely other things that you can do to maximize your single life at this point.

So don’t rush it. The right person will come to you when you are ready.

Anggun Bawi

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